Cut or Intact – Guys, How Do You Like Your Men?


A well-known author who would like to remain anonymous emailed me a few days ago on this very sensitive topic. Do gay men prefer their partners to be cut or do they like an intact foreskin? This question has nothing whatsoever to do with religion or hygiene – it’s strictly sensory, aesthetic and to a lesser degree, olfactory.

So, in my usual very inhibited and introverted way I thought I would do a poll on this topic because it would be helpful not only to my author friend but other female M/M and gay erotica writers as well. As an aside, it would be useful for me to have this information too as I embark on my much anticipated writing career *g*.

We know that Bobby Michaels advocates the intact penis because in a number of his books, especially the Jock Dorm and Veterans series he is really into the visual and sensory aspects of sex; he also loves ‘manly men’ who are downright sweaty and I don’t believe he likes anything that would mask a man’s natural smell. However, Bobby notwithstanding, what do you guys prefer? Do you like the movement of the foreskin on the intact penis as it glides back and forth, thus adding another dimension to sexual stimulation? Some people compare this to playing hide and seek :) Or do you prefer the friction of the ‘cut’ penis? Please note that I’m using clinical terms because I would like to keep the discussion elevated as much as I can but you can use whatever terminology you find comfortable.

As a subset to your response could you please indicate the reason for your preference? For example, is it because with an intact penis the pleasure is extended or is it because, if your partner is cut, his sensation is heightened? For some of you it does not matter either way and that’s cool but I would like you to tell us why, if you don’t mind. Not being a guy (I swear I’m not) I have no idea of the different factors that would go into this consideration but I understand that for some guys this preference is really huge.

While it seems that most women prefer their men to have benefited from the surgeon’s knife *ouch* according to a few informal surveys, there doesn’t appear to be any empirical data about the preferences of gay men. When I asked my gay friends for information about this they said that since they have no interest in dating me they weren’t going to give it up for free. I really thought they liked me! So guys – which do you prefer? The mushroom or the anteater? (I didn’t come up with these terms – my friends did.) By responding to this short poll you’ll be doing a great service to a lot of M/M and gay erotica authors and yours truly, of course.

Thanks in advance for what I hope will be some spirited comments and discussions on the blog. I hope some of our M/M authors will enter the fray as well. There will be a prize by said famous author for the best comment. Those of you who are on Livejournal and on my Flist will be able to view the comments here –

As usual, if you prefer to respond by email you can send your comments to

27 thoughts on “Cut or Intact – Guys, How Do You Like Your Men?

  1. shoganrea

    Hi Wave

    Oh, that’s an easy question. The perfect guy would be the one with two cocks, one cut and one uncut. *g*

    OK, let’s get serious again for a moment. For me there are several answers to this question.

    I am uncut myself (as is quite common in Germany) and think about it as an advantage. That is when I’m with a guy who really knows how to incorporate the foreskin into a blowjob. I’m just putty in the hands of such a guy! *fg*

    Sadly I myself lack this particularly skill and thus tend to ignore the foreskin pretty fast when reciprocating. So I would say I myself prefer to play with cut cocks.

    In regard to fucking I hope you’ll understand that I won’t get myself circumcised, just to be able to tell you about the differences as a top. ;)

    So naturally I can only tell you about my experiences as a bottom and I think the difference between being fucked by an uncut cock and a cut cock is next to nothing. But maybe the difference for me is alleviated by the fact that using a condom is always a must for me and always has been, even in my prior relationships.

    So altogether I think I prefer my partners to be cut, but on the other hand I would never send a cute guy away only because he is uncut. *g*


  2. jessewave

    Oh Christian
    I can always count on you to give me a whole new dimension to my polls. I never knew the advantages of incorporating the foreskin into a b.j. As usual, my post overlooked some obvious aspects to this question.

    Thanks so much and I’ll be sure to include your comments when I do the results. Have a great day.


  3. TLC Tugger

    Who would want a partner to be missing half the sensual pleasure-receptive nerve endings, or the exquisite rolling/gliding action of the skin tube as it breaks over the corona of the glans? Foreskin feels REALLY good!

    Without it, the glans and the mucosa just below the glans get somewhat numb. I guess there’s no one answer; some people may like a pounding from a sensation-free stick, but isn’t that what dildos are for?

  4. jessewave

    Thank you for responding Tic. See, this is why I need you guys to comment because without this information we women will just keep on making assumptions and you know what “assume” does *g*

    I really appreciate your input.

  5. JenB

    I want to answer, but sadly I lack the proper equipment.


    I think the answers will be drastically different for gay men than for straight women. Men seem to be interested primarily in sensation. Women are concerned with hygiene, cooties, and all that other fun stuff that rarely crosses a man’s mind. And let’s not forget the dreaded beast that lives under unwashed foreskin…SMEGMA!


    OMG, I would make the most pathetic gay man ever. “Can you please shower first? And be sure to scrub your foreskin. You’re smelling a little ripe today.” LOLOL

  6. jessewave

    OMG Jen

    You just don’t like the word “smegma” since you first read Bobby Michaels’ Jock Dorm books.

    The guys are happy you’re not one of them *g* I don’t know what the response will be – I think it will be a mix.

    As usual, thank you for your wonderfully sensitive comments :)

  7. JenB

    Sensitive, that's me. *snort*

    The Bobby Michaels books scarred me for life. That's really saying something, considering I read gay porn (you still need to check out Working Stiff).

    But actually, the fear of smegma started when I watched an episode of Penn & Teller's "B.S." show on the hotel TV while I was in San Francisco for my honeymoon. Hubby and I still have great laughs over that show, and the photos of uncircumcised elderly men.

  8. jessewave

    You watched pics of elderly uncircumcised men on your honeymoon? ewwww And you dare talk about smegma *g*

    I really love Bobby Michaels’ writing – no feminine men in his books – they are all manly men!!

  9. emmyjag

    I did a quick informal quiz over drinks with my roomies at a local gay bar. I’m now traumatized for life, and boycotting man sex until I can look at one without the nauseated feeling I have now *g*

    Surprisingly, many of the responses were divided by race. The two Mexican guys, for example, were uncut, which is fairly common amongst the messicans (according to the rest of the table, LOL). They liked their guys uncut.

    The white boys preferred cut, because -and I quote- “uncut cocks are ugly!”

    The guys who were cut preferred their partners to be cut as well, and the ones who were uncut said sex felt better with uncut men. Something about docking, which almost made me puke. Apparently two uncut guys can pull their foreskins over the tips of each other’s ding dings. Who knew?

    There was something about head cheese too, which I’m guessing is smegma. God, men are disgusting!

  10. JenB

    Hey Wave…what kind of audience is your m/m author friend writing for?

    If he/she is writing for the main m/m romance market (women) and the book is a contemporary, I’d say go with at least one of the men being circumcised. If he/she is American or Canadian and writing for a mostly American or Canadian female market, I’d suggest making both men circumcised.

    If he/she is writing a historical, gay fiction or erotica (NOT the same as m/m romance), or for an audience not from the U.S. or Canada, I’d suggest making one or more of the men uncircumcised.

    Most of the m/m stuff written by women isn’t written for gay men, even though it’s about them.

  11. jessewave

    Thank you so much for your informal survey and input. I did a quick informal quiz over drinks with my roomies at a local gay bar. I’m now traumatized for life, and boycotting man sex until I can look at one without the nauseated feeling I have now *g*

    I’m sorry to have traumatized you for life – that was obviously not my intention :D Btw I had never heard about ‘docking’ and will have to do some further study in this area. How great is this? Titillating research – university was never like this!

    I now know everything I need to know about head cheese or smegma after reading Bobby Michaels’ novels which opened a whole new world to me. If you would like to read a gay contemporary book where the men are men, you should try Bobby’s books which are available on Loose-id’s website(although by your reaction I’m not sure you’re ready for Bobby) LOL

    Thanks again EJ for your work on behalf of the blog – I really appreciate it!

  12. jessewave

    The author writes contemporary and paranormal books as well as scifi and she is American. She may decide to ‘reveal’ herself when I summarize the results of this informal ‘poll’.

    I did get a response from a historical author and basically it is not an issue for them since all men were ‘natural’ then.

    I’m aware that M/M books are not written for men since the primary audience is women. However, there has been so much criticism from gay men about the ‘accuracy’ of portrayals of their lifestyles that I guess some M/M and gay erotica authors want to ensure that their books reflect a measure of truth. I do realize that fiction books, regardless of genre, are fantasies and that the readers love the fantasy of inhabiting the author’s world. This is the main reason why I read books but sometime I have “what the f..k” moments when I think that the author has taken the fantasy too far in contemporary M/M books. Of course, sci fi, fantasy and paranormal books are another area altogether as is evidenced by the ‘two cock’ syndrome in Morgan Hawke’s books *g*

  13. thelastaerie

    jeez… I feel so inadequate, I’ve never seen a real cut cock, it’s not common in Europe.

    Personally, i think foreskin is fun to play with. But then what do I know? I can’t compare. I guess I learn something new from blogs from this every day :P

  14. jessewave

    This will be the kind of education that you never received while at school, I promise.

    I know that the ‘cut’ penis is not common in Europe unless you’re Jewish while here in North America the reverse is probably true. This job is such fun *g*

  15. JenB

    …there has been so much criticism from gay men about the ‘accuracy’ of portrayals of their lifestyles…

    Y’know…that’s one element I (and probably most female readers) would be more than willing to let slide. I don’t know many m/m romance authors that even bother to specify whether a cock is cut or uncut most of the time. Porn authors, sure…uncut cocks are very popular in gay porn…but not so much in romance.

    It’s no different from M/F or F/F or any other romance. Some things don’t really require detailed descriptions. There are plenty of ways to describe a penis without ever mentioning whether it has or doesn’t have foreskin, just like there are plenty of ways to describe a woman’s bits without ever mentioning whether the clitoris is hooded or not.

    Extremely specific descriptions are more suited to erotica and porn than romance.

    Here’s another question…are men actually complaining that m/m romance authors are getting it wrong, or are women the ones noticing these things?

  16. jessewave

    Hi Jen

    It’s a bit of both. But gay men have been complaining about M/M books in general for some time, and specifically that they and their relationships are portrayed as one dimensional. That was evident in the wrap up I did about the prostate question when they expanded it to cover other issues.

    I was asked by a M/M author to do a poll about this current question. She really wanted to know whether it mattered to gay men if their partners were cut or not. Probably it has to do with her current book but I made the question a general one. I don’t think it’s her intention to write erotica.

  17. jessewave

    I guess you would have to put me down for the uncut preferred

    Thanks TP for your comment and what do you mean “most things about sex are dirty?” That has not been my experience *g*

    1. Leo Heath

      My step-father had me circumsized, but at this late age, I am using tape to stretch skin from the shaft. Fortunately, the surgeon left a lot of skin. It’s a slow process, but in time, I’ll look ‘natural’


  18. Mick

    Just stimbled onto this site from google search. I’m… still trying to figure myself out, in an orientation perspective. I’m also a virgin, so no experience.
    I’m circumsized, but I feel like I’d prefer an uncut cock. I don’t really know why. They’re just nicer to look at and look like more fun. Also, this may sound strange, but the past week I’ve been looking into foreskin restoration a lot to see if I should try it. The results look legit and I’m really tempted.

    1. John

      Mick, did you decide to restore? I grew up with my foreskin loose and retracted because my frenulun had been severed neonatally, so my foreskin wasn’t forced to grow as much as my shaft. I always had the idea that a foreskin allowed more pleasure, and I didn’t like the feel of clothes or hair against my most sensitive areas, so when I was 22 I found I could pull my foreskin to cover my whole glans, and started taping it at night and let nocturnal erections do the additional stretching. It didn’t take long until T could pass for uncut. I have always preferred uncut men and in my more promiscuous times noted that I often had three orgasms with intact men but only once did I have more than one a session with a cut man. Having read what women who have had both kinds of men, I realize more fully that we are capable of having silken sex rather than the jackhammer type that circumcised men have.

  19. Rob

    I’m American and wasn’t circumcised at birth. I work in Korea, and when I came here and did the health check, the DR. told me to do it b/c most men in Korea are circumcised!

    So I did it. It was terrible pain for a week or so.

    It took about a month for things to go back to looking normal.

    Now, my— looks good–

    1. Wave

      Hi Rob

      Thanks for responding to this somewhat informal survey. :grin: I’m very glad that you love your new look and more power to you. :cool:

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