A Very Special Marriage – Rick R. Reed and Bruce Moynagh tie the knot

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The Kiss

Rick’s and Bruce’s romance touched me on so many levels. Rick did a post almost 18 months ago on the site that I absolutely loved called Writing Love Stories/Living Love Stories in which he talked about how much he loved Bruce. I prayed that someday they would be able to legally wed and here’s the sequel to their romance, which is better than fiction:

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So yesterday, my now-husband, Bruce and I made history, both personal and on a much bigger stage. We shared our history-making day with many, many other couples in our state, all couples who were coming together for one reason—to commit themselves to one another in love and marriage.

Legal Marriage.

Ready to exchange rings

See, Bruce and I wed on the first day marriage became legal in Washington state. This alone is significant, what’s even more significant is the fact that this was the first time in US history that same-sex couples were able to do this because the ability to marry had been voted in by a majority, a popular vote, thwarting those who proposed a referendum that existed for division, prejudice, and discrimination. Love does triumph.

But this little piece isn’t really about major societal changes or the tide turning toward what is now called “gay marriage,” and what I believe will one day simply be called “marriage.” No, it’s about waking up this morning and saying to Bruce, “I feel different today. Do you?”

And he agreed. Because our small wedding yesterday—and our entering into such a solemn and loving commitment—was a sea change in our lives. Even though we have been together for more than a decade and we have seen each other through good times and bad, sickness and health, and all the other assorted things we call life that committed couples endure and celebrate together, we could never call ourselves married. Not really, not without some modification, like “in our hearts” which is significant indeed, but it does not change the fact that, up until yesterday, saying we were married or calling each other husband seemed a bit like playacting.

Lily – very happy for her daddies

But now we are married—for real, witnessed by dear friends, and celebrated, thanks to the wonder of social media, far and wide. And things now feel more contented, more settled, more real. Of course, I love Bruce with all my heart and have always done so, but maybe, just a little, I feel more like we are a family since we took that emotional step yesterday when we slid rings on our fingers, said our “I wills” and kissed as our friend, an ordained minister, pronounced us married in front of our fireplace with our Boston terrier, Lily sitting at our feet, and our friends nearby, alternately weeping and smiling.

Our friend Bruce, an ordained UCC minister, was kind enough to marry us (to each other)

It was a big moment and one that will take a while to fully process. But for now, let’s just say I can look at the future with a bit more hope, my heart a bit more grounded, my hands joined with a man who I know will be my best friend, my partner, my lover, my everything, for the rest of my days.

Married.

In lieu of vows, I found a poem by Roy Croft called “Love” that I believe so perfectly summed up what I felt and am feeling that I wanted to share it with Bruce over any traditional wedding vows.

In closing, I would like to leave you with that poem, and my sincere hope that you may find or have someone in your life to be able to think of when you hear these words. Because, that my friend, is all that really matters.

Love by Roy Croft

I love you
Not only for what you are,
But for what I am
When I am with you.
I love you,
Not only for what
You have made of yourself,
But for what
You are making of me.
I love you
For the part of me
That you bring out;
I love you
For putting your hand
Into my heaped-up heart
And passing over
All the foolish, weak things
That you can’t help
Dimly seeing there,
And for drawing out
Into the light
All the beautiful belongings
That no one else had looked
Quite far enough to find
I love you because you
Are helping me to make
Of the lumber of my life
Not a tavern
But a temple.
Out of the works
Of my every day
Not a reproach
But a song.
I love you
Because you have done
More than any creed
Could have done
To make me good.
And more than any fate
Could have done
To make me happy.
You have done it
Without a touch,
Without a word,
Without a sign.
You have done it
By being yourself.

Want to see more pictures from our wedding? Go here:

And, just so you know, Bruce and I are planning a big celebration in late summer/early fall (when the weather in Seattle is actually gorgeous), so there’s an epilogue I’ll add to this story late in 2013.

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Rick R. Reed Biography

My favourite Rick & Bruce photo

Rick R. Reed is all about exploring the romantic entanglements of gay men in contemporary, realistic settings. While his stories often contain elements of suspense, mystery and the paranormal, his focus ultimately returns to the power of love. He is the author of dozens of published novels, novellas, and short stories. He is a two-time EPIC eBook Award winner (for Orientation and The Blue Moon Cafe). Lambda Literary Review has called him, “a writer that doesn’t disappoint.” Rick lives in Seattle with his partner and a very spoiled Boston terrier. He is forever “at work on another novel.”

Visit Rick’s website at http://www.rickrreed.com
or follow his blog at http://rickrreedreality.blogspot.com/.
You can also like Rick on Facebook at www.facebook.com/rickrreedbooks
or on Twitter atwww.twitter.com/rickrreed.

49 thoughts on “A Very Special Marriage – Rick R. Reed and Bruce Moynagh tie the knot

  1. Helena

    CONGRATS!! :hurrah: :bravo: :hurray2: :jump: :happydance:

    And thank you for sharing this special day with us

    :hearts01: :hearts02: :love2: :loveyou2: :biglove: :sendoutlove:

  2. Bogusia

    Congratulations to you both :hurray2:
    Being loved is the only way to walk through the world! :sendoutlove:

    1. Wave

      Rick
      It was my pleasure. You have been a friend of this site almost from the inception, and I would have been crushed if you had said “no” to me paying homage to you and Bruce on the occasion of your marriage.

      Be happy my friend.

  3. Stuart

    Rick-
    Congratulations on your marriage! It’s so wonderful that you and your husband finally have equality in Washington, and hopefully DOMA will fall in June. May you and Bruce always be blessed in your mutual husbandry: blessed in your work & companionship; blessed in your sleeping and waking; blessed in your sorrows & joys. May you and your husband continue to grow in love and peace every day during the long and happy years of your marriage. -Stu

    1. Rick R. Reed

      Thank you for the lovely message, Stu. And thanks to everyone who has commented so far. Know that I read and treasure each and every comment! And Stu, I am with you on DOMA being put to rest in June–fingers crossed and praying!

  4. Victor J. Banis

    cogratulations and being a writer, I can’t help wanting to share a bit of romantic trivia. Your poem, with some variations, has been around a long time. At one time in the early 60s (I think) some soul group whose name I don’t recall recorded “Melody of Love” – in the course of which, one of them recited that poem, or at least parts of it. Later in the 60s it was much circulated with the title Desiderata, authorship anonymous. I’ve had more than one person present me with a copy and the information that they had written it. I wish I knew more about the real history of the piece, but it is lovely and was surely perfect for your purposes.

  5. Jeffrey

    Congrats. Isn’t the feeling of being married when you never thought that would be possible growing up an absolutely amazing feeling. Best wishes for many more years together.

      1. Jeffrey

        After Fred and I got married, I also felt different but it wasn’t about him and I as much as I felt like I was a full part of society. Getting married was so emotional for us – we cried through most of the ceremony.

  6. LadyM

    Congratulations, Rick & Bruce! Those are beautiful photographs. Your continuing story of commitment and happiness and that lovely poem brought tears to my eyes. I wish you the best and I’m looking forward to the next installment (not epilogue, certainly) of your lovely story.

  7. Susan

    Best wishes to you and Bruce, Rick. Thank you for sharing yourself and the beautiful pictures. Just lovely!

  8. B.G. Thomas

    So happy for you! This is SO amazing! I am in the hospital and this post made me so happy I feel like dancing (but I better not today). I look forward to the day I can marry Raymond. With what’s going up before the Supreme Court, maybe this time next year I will be able to!

    HUGS to you both! So thrilled for you!

    And yes, a piece of paper doesn’t make us more married to our men, but at the same time, I felt something in my heart about you being able to be just a little closer. How wonderful! I will make sure my dog is at our wedding!

    XOXOXOO
    Ben

    1. Rick R. Reed

      Ben…thank you SO MUCH for the kind words. My hope for you is that you too can marry your partner sooner rather than later and that you’re OUT OF THE HOSPITAL, sooner, rather than later. Take care, my friend.

  9. Rhys Ford

    Already said congrats to you but hell, I feel like there’s never going to be enough words to share that joy you’ve found.

    Have a happy and long life, love. *hugs*

  10. Laura

    Awww. This post made my day. Congratulations to both of you and wishing you all the happiness in the world!

  11. Lasha

    I already said congratulations on FB, but let me say it again, because Bruce and you deserve it. I wish you many, many years of joy and happiness together as husbands.

  12. Gaycrow

    This is a lovely post! Congratulations to you both, Rick and Bruce. :hurrah: It’s been a long time to wait, but I imagine it’s been worth it.

    Yesterday I was watching a video of couples walking down the steps of Seattle’s City Hall after their weddings. People were clapping and cheering them, giving them flowers and serenading them … it brought tears to my eyes. The couples weren’t celebrities, just ordinary people, but they were finally able to share such a special moment together.

    http://youtu.be/bvVTCJfZiAk

  13. Rick R. Reed

    It was an exciting day in Seattle. I swear you could feel the love in the air. So much happiness and support and very, very little of anything that even hinted at the opposite.

  14. Chris

    Many congratulations to you both and thank you for sharing your very special day with us.

    Here’s wishing you a future filled with love and happiness, Rick and Bruce!

  15. Penumbra

    That poem! OMG! That’s the exact same poem I found and had the minister read at our wedding over twenty years ago. I still love it. It says so much and is so romantic :hearts01:

    Congratulations! I’m so happy for you both. May the years ahead be filled with much joy and happiness :)

  16. Lynn G

    Congratulations Rick and Bruce! May the love, laughter and joy, just continue to grow throughout your journey together. :) :flowers: Thank you for sharing!

  17. Lisa

    Congratulations! Thanks so much for sharing your special day. I wish you many years of happiness together.

    Lily is adorable! Looks like she has a big smile on her face. I think she really is happy for the two of you.

  18. Fiona McGier

    After living together, we felt that at that point we were ready to enter the next phase of our relationship, that until then we’d be stuck in a rut instead of progressing. Congratulations on being able to move into the next level of togetherness. I’m so happy for both of you! May your love continue to grow and be as comfortable as a down duvet for your souls.

  19. Ally Blue

    Rick, I’m so happy for you and Bruce, and for every brand-new happily married couple in Washington state right now! It’s about damn time. You know I heart you like crazy and next time I see you I’m giving you a much belated congratulatory hug and buying you a glass of champagne! :biglove:

  20. Jenna Hilary

    To Rick and Bruce, Congratulations! The news of your marriage means something a little extra to me, as I worked my tail off for weeks making calls into Washington state in support of marriage equality. It was hard, because the phone list from Washington United for Marriage was wide open in the beginning especially, and I talked to my fair share of very closed-minded people, but I also talked to many supporters. I was euphoric about Maryland, Maine, and Minnesota on election day, but of course we had to wait just a little longer to get the news out of Washington state. And now the tangible result of the efforts of many people over the years: your wedding. I was *so* happy to read your post. Here’s to the day when this is everyday news, but since it isn’t yet, I celebrate your happiness with a great big grin!

    1. Rick R. Reed

      Jenna…thank you so much for that hard work. Because of you, and people like you, we were able to marry, something we thought we’d never be able to do. Like you, I pray for the day when gay people getting married is special to them, but nothing newsworthy.

  21. AndyB

    I wanted to add my few words of congratulations for, and blessings on, your marriage. If my comment multiplies your happiness, then your happiness graces the world, the one in which we all live and which seems so sorely in need of both love and happiness. My best wishes to your and your husband.

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